Last weekend marked the exciting start of an 8-week journey reviewing the powerful lessons in Stephen Covey’s Book – “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”. Published in 1989, this influential book has sold over 25 million copies worldwide and shaped many people’s thinking on effectiveness and success.
Kicking off the first day of the review, the host Sylvester, started by highlighting some of the extensive praise that the book has received from experts in various fields. For example, we read out the endorsement stating that the book can help you “live permanently in the winners circle” – emphasizing the profound impact the habits can have.
After setting the stage, we summarized the structure and core concepts of the book, which provides a strategic sequence – first mastering self-discipline and then using that foundation to improve relationships and interactions. Renewal ensures you continue growing. Or as Covey put it, private victories precede public ones. The four major parts of the book:
- Part 1 covers paradigms and principles
- Part 2 deals with “private victories”
- Part 3 focuses on “public victories”
- Part 4 is about renewal
An important distinction made early in the book is between personality ethic and character ethic. As we learned, personality ethic is the idea that success just comes from image, techniques and behaviors that can be quickly learned. But character ethic focuses on integrity, humility and other virtues that take time to cultivate.
The book emphasizes character ethic as the superior path, whereas much of society embraces personality ethic. As Sylvester noted, we cannot simply learn to have integrity – it must be built over time. This ethic aligns with the “inside-out” approach recommended in the book.
The Power of Paradigms
According to how the author compared paradigms to maps – if your map does not accurately reflect the territory, you will keep getting lost no matter how hard you try. Likewise, we can be ineffective if our mental maps and assumptions about life are flawed.
To illustrate this, we carried out an engaging exercise in the book, with a classic sketch that can be seen as either a young or old woman. By first asking people what they saw and then prompting them to try seeing it from another perspective, he demonstrated how strongly our perceptions can be shaped by conditioning.
This ties into the notion of paradigm shifts – those sudden “aha” moments when we finally start looking at something in a new way. The book emphasizes being open to paradigm shifts rather than being stuck in old thinking.
Principles vs Paradigms
Connected to this is the distinction between principles and paradigms. Principles are like lighthouses – timeless natural laws that provide guidance. Paradigms are our individual perspectives that can always be expanded, evolved or shifted. We took a few moment to read a story from the book about the Captain of a ship who kept insisting the lighthouse move out of his way, not understanding it was rooted in unchangeable principles.
This story highlights that we cannot force or fight the principles of life, only align our paradigms with them through better understanding.
Inside-Out Approach
Because flawed perceptions are often the root issue behind ineffective behavior, the book advocates an “inside-out” approach to change. This means focusing first on self-mastery and private victories before trying to change outward behaviors, and of course, this has to be tied into the structure of the 7 habits.
Overview of the 7 Habits
Mr. Grandee Ughoton a Guest Reviewer summarized what each of the 7 habits represents:
- Be Proactive – Take responsibility for your life rather than blame external factors.
- Begin with the End in Mind – Define your values, goals and direction to ensure you live intentionally.
- Put First Things First – Prioritize and focus on the vital few actions that matter most.
- Think Win-Win – Adopt a mindset of mutual benefit rather than zero-sum competition.
- Seek first to understand, then to be understood – Communication is more effective when you listen deeply rather than react.
- Synergize – Tap into collaborative creativity to find combined solutions.
- Sharpen the Saw – Commit to continuous self-renewal mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally.
The author emphasized that habits 1-3 make up the “Private Victories” dealing with self-mastery, while 4-6 are the “Public Victories” dealing with relationships. Renewal ensures you have continuous growth.
Application Suggestions
Throughout the first day’s review, we focused not just on explanation but on application. Stephen Covey guarantees results for those who apply the material consistently over time.
To start the application process, the host – Mr. Sylvester Ebhonu (The Digital Librarian) suggested two initial exercises:
- Identify your own paradigms in life by considering how you view your work, relationships, challenges, communication style and so on. See if you can shift perspectives.
- Make a habit over the next week of trying to understand situations from multiple points of view before reacting. Think win-win.
- He also strongly encouraged everyone to obtain their own copy of the book to fully engage with the material during this 8-week journey.
In summary, the first day reviewing The 7 Habits provided an inspirational introduction to the key ideas and frameworks that will be explored in more depth over the coming weeks. The concepts of paradigms, principles, private victories and habits have already sparked great discussion and reflection.
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This program promises to be a transformative opportunity for all those who engage fully with the principles taught. We will keep you posted on each week’s outcome and how to put these Habits into practice!
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This is really inspirational to start the year with .. 7keys . “Sharpen the saw” very important.
Thank you for reading